New Year's Resolutions That Work

As the end of the year 2008 approaches, it's a time for celebration.

It's also a great time for reflection. Traditionally it's a time for

visualizing what we want to accomplish in the New Year and

creating those infamous resolutions.All too often, what starts out

as a positive exercise in forward thinking, becomes an energy

draining exercise in agonizing over past failures.

How many times have you tried and failed to make these same

changes?

Why not try something a little different in 2009?

How about shifting your focus from what you didn't do, to wha

you actually did do and start building from there?Many people

have a hard time giving themselves credit for what's working in

their lives. We are so in the habit of beating ourselves up and

blaming ourselves for what's not right and what's not working.

All that negativity requires a huge amount of energy. It tires us

out, drains us of joy, and blocks out any sense of hope and well

being for the future. It completely obscures a great deal of the

good we have going for us.

Here is a 7-step process you can follow to support you in

beginning this New Year with a joyous new attitude.

1) Make a list of all the things you did right last year.

Think about all the things you are proud of, all the areas where

you moved forward in your life, even in small ways. List the

things you are grateful for about your life and how you contribute

to those around you.Add to your list what you appreciate about

the many things you have accomplished and how they have

positively impacted your life. Congratulate yourself for these

noteworthy accomplishments.

We get caught up in focusing on what we failed to accomplish

and often forget to give ourselves credit for the many more things

that we did check off our list!

2) Take inventory of your negative thoughts and feelings.

What are you hanging on to that is draining your energy? What

resentments are you holding? What are you angry about? Who are

you angry with? What are you angry with yourself about? What

are your regrets? Write down all the specific negative emotions you

can identify on as many pieces of paper as it takes.

3) Make a conscious choice to release these negative

emotions.

Declare your intention with clarity of conviction by stating out loud,

"I release my anger, resentments and regrets. I forgive myself, and

others, for our past mistakes and imperfections. I open my heart to

a more positive outlook on life".

4) Decide how you'd like to feel about yourself, your life

and the people around you.

Fill your mind with positive thoughts about your life and positive

feelings of anticipation for a new start in your new year. Notice

how you feel just thinking about your life in this new way.

5) Create an energizing life plan.

Instead of making a laundry list of New Year's Resolutions, spend

some time taking a broader view.

What kind of quality of life would energize you?

How can you create more time for the things that really

matter;what things can you say "no" to?

What do you want to do to take care of yourself that would

be nurturing and soul satisfying?

What could you do to bring more intimacy or sense of

connection to your important relationships?

What things could you make a part of your life next year

that would create more satisfaction, balance and well being?

Take a holistic view of your life and create a written plan that

will energize you to take action.Answering the questions and

doing the activities outlined in this seven-step process will

guide you to make changes from the heart.

Changes that come from a place of heart-felt desire, along with

clarity of your desired outcome in terms of the quality of life you

are seeking, will naturally give you greater momentum for success

than changes motivated by harsh recriminations.

As you enter the New Year, treat yourself with kindness,

acknowledge and celebrate the good in your life and the important

things you have accomplished, let go of negativity, and enjoy your

new year with a new attitude!

BELIEVE them and guess what?

You'll be celebrating your wins in 2009!

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"Remember not the former things, Behold I make all things new" - God to you

Why It's Important to Stop and Reflect

The Poet (French: Le Penseur) is a bronze and

marble sculpture by Auguste Rodin held in the

Musée Rodin in Paris . It depicts a man in sober

meditation battling with a powerful internal
struggle. It is often used to represent philosophy.

There is this poem: "What is this life if, full of care, We
have no time to stand and stare?"

We are all in such a rush to get to our next destination we

have no time to stop and reflect on where we have been and

what we have done. There always the fear that if we stop the

others who keep on going will overtake us and we will be left

behind in life's race.

But suppose we could do even better with less need to rush

along?

Reflection is a huge part of the learning process.

And the more knowledge you have and apply, the more power

you wield. This knowledge may provide you a way to stop

rushing along with the others and find a simpler method of

achieving success without the need to always keep running.

All our lives are lived in stages. We were infants who learn

observing how others behave. Then we go to school where a

formal system of teaching us begins and continues for twelve

years. Some of us go on to the university for another few years

before working. Our working lives too are a series of stages,

with one promotion and change of work after another, until

most of us retire. In each stage we do the best we can with the

tools and knowledge at our disposal. But we could have more

and be better equipped.

Hindsight has a very negative connotation. But if can

also be used for good. Taking time to reflect on things that

happened in the past using the hindsight of the knowledge

and experience you have gained since then, will often show you

ways in which you could have improved you performance in the

past. So what good does that do you now?

Well, consider someone learning to bake for the first time.

Whatever the results may have been, good or bad, looking

back after a few years of baking experience behind him will

allow our chef to see ways that in which he could have

produced a better cake that time.

Now suppose he did this exercise after his second baking

attempt. The second attempt will be better than the first,

because he would have learned more. But if he had
reflected in detail on the first attempt, he may have found

still more areas for improvement than the obvious ones he

picked up on. The third cake will not just be an improvement

on the second but will be the result of all that he has learned

from his previous experiences.

This will not only help him to do better, but will give
him the confidence to think of ways to reduce the work

involved and make things easier for himself. In other

words, a way out of the race to keep up.

You need not always reflect alone. Sitting with other

to analyze the past means more minds focused on the issue

which will result in a great understanding of what you

need to do in the future. The more minds shining their

light on a past situation, the more light the past will shed

on the present.

Reflection does not mean looking back and

beating yourself up for the mistakes you made or the

opportunities you let slip through your fingers.

Those have all long since been lost in the mists of time

and there's nothing you can do to bring them back. But

being able to look back and use the knowledge you have

acquired since then to understand how you can improve

today is the base of future success.

Think about it.

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"A wise man gives thought to his ways.." - Proverbs

i'm Back!!!!!!

HELLO EVERYONE.

Merry Christmas in arrears.

It's been forever and I'm saying a big, BIG "I'm sorry " for being away for so looooong.

I just got an SMS from a friend of mine about 7 minutes ago (he was my PMP instructor too) and it's about this blog and it's very VERY encouraging.

In Life, we all need people to cheer us on. it usually costs them a little but the effect are ASTOUNDING on the recepient(s). Sometimes, it's just the energy and MOTIVATION needed to set you going from your inertia.

Yawwwwn!!!!!

it's so good to be awake Again!

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" Quitters never win" - Anonymous

Thank you so much Kayode for your text.

How To Deal With Difficult People ...

...-Convert Difficult People to Friends
Have you ever met people who criticize or blame you,
even for the smallest reasons? Sure you have!!

They’re the ones who always find faults in whatever
you do, but never acknowledges any good deeds
you’ve done. If you’ve ever wanted to know how to
deal with difficult people, then this article will prove
to be priceless. To know how to deal with difficult
people, you must understand their behavior. They
have big egos that need to be satisfied; and they hate
it when they get humiliated. So even if you’re tempted,
never do things that will damage their self-esteem.

Here’s how to deal with difficult people who like to
play the “blame” game.

If they blame you, never retaliate; simply admit your
mistake.
Be humble.
Being defensive would only make your assailant more
aggressive in taunting you. Tell them you’re sorry. But
saying “sorry” is not enough. Tell them exactly what
you’re sorry for, and what exactly you’re going to do in
the future to avoid committing the same error.
For example, say:“I’m sorry for being late at the meeting.
Next time, I’ll schedule ahead of time to make sure that I’ll
never be delayed.”

Now here’s how to deal with difficult people if they
continue to blame you. Tell them subtly that their actions
will never improve the situation; it will only make matters
worse because of the wasted time and energy. Then
propose to come up with a solution that will solve the
current problem. Say something like: “I know that my
tardiness has caused us to lose big money in this project,
and I’m really sorry. We’re only making things worse if
we focus on the consequences of what happened. Tell you
what…I’ll do my best to resolve this concern and ensure it
will never happen again.”

If you can quickly think of a solution, let them know
about it immediately so they’ll realize how serious you
are in improving the situation. If you can’t come up with
a solution, at least make them aware that you did your
best.Learning how to deal with difficult people doesn’t
take rocket science. Just say sorry, then tell them what
you’re sorry for and your proposed action to avoid the
same mistake from being made again.

If they go on blaming, make them realize that their action
will only make matters worse. Then exert all efforts to think
of an ideal solution to ease the current situation. By
applying these steps, converting difficult people to friends
is as easy as pie.

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"He that will have friends must show himself friendly"- Proverbs

Can You Attract Money With Self-Written Cheque?

A self-written cheque is a method many successful people
use to attract money. It is a method which you write the
amount of money you desire on a cheque and look at it
everyday.

Will it work? Can you really attract money by
using this fake cheque?I believe if you read or participated
in seminars about millionaire mindset or rich education,
you will come across this method. Although it is commonly
used by most successful people, no one can give a logical
or good explain about this method. What’s the science
behind it? I’m going to share with you what I know about
this method:One of the toughest challenges by everyone
who desire to be success is “To believe they can be
successful everyday until the day that they finally made
it”. It’s an extremely challenging journey if you have ever
pursued a dream.

When we are on our way to achieve our dreams, our
mind will doubt that if we can make it. It’s normal
and everyone who is success will go through it. Some of
us might doubt it everyday and some of us might
doubt it every hour. This drives us crazy and some of us
might even decide to give up because it’s challenging. The
bigger your dream, the stronger the doubt will be.

9 out of 10 people gave up not because they
failed but because they don’t believe that
they will make it.

This self-written cheque can support and give you power
when you doubt yourself. It strengthens your belief.
Whenever you doubt yourself, the check tells your mind
that you already made it and you will make it.Another biggest
challenge most successful people will face is the change of
mood. To succeed, you need lots of discipline. You can’t do
things when you feel like doing and you can’t do things that
you only like doing. ‘Mood’ is something disastrous when you
cannot handle it properly. Some people fail in pursuing
their dream because they stop doing what they should
do when they face some failures.

A self-written cheque will give you excitement. Whenever you
failed or face any challenges, look at the check and think that
it’s a real cheque for you. You’ll feel excited and stop feeling bad.
You can move on faster and not stuck in sticky situations.

To succeed, you need to keep yourself excited and give
excitement to your team, customers and everyone
around you. If everyone are excited to work with you,
you’ll be successful easier and faster!If you believe in
the law of attraction, you will also understand the power
of a self-written cheque. This method has way too many
benefits and all it takes is just 1 minute to write one. Start
using this method and I’m sure you’ll see amazing results!

QUOTE OF THE POST
"You won't see it until you see it"- Unknown

How To Be Happy

Is there some secret that those who always seem
happy are hiding? Not at all. They just have a way
of turning negative into positive.

Below are a few ways you to can start bringing more
happiness and less negativity into your life.

*Take care of yourself physically. It's much easier to
be optimistic when you are eating well, exercising, and
getting enough rest.

*Be thankful. Stresses and challenges don't seem as
terrible when you remind yourself of the things that
are right in life.

* Don't Assume. Don't waste time worrying that you
did something incorrect unless you have evidence that
there is something to worry about.

* Don't use absolutes. Thinking and talking in absolutes
like 'always' and 'never' makes the situation appear worse
than it is.

*Think positively. Your thoughts can't hold any power
over you if you don't judge them. If you notice yourself
having a negative thought, detach from it, witness it,
and don't follow it.

*Get and give hugs. Positive physical contact with friends,
loved ones, and even pets, is an instant pick-me-up.

*Increase your social activity. Surround yourself with
healthy, happy people, and their positive energy will affect
you in a positive way!

*Volunteer. Everyone feels good after helping. You can
volunteer your time, your money,or your resources. The
more positive energy you put out into the world, the more
you will receive in return.

*Don't dwell on the negative. It's never productive, because
it's not rational or solution-oriented; it's just excessive worry.

Try changing your physical environment - go for a walk or sit
outside. You could also call a friend, pick up a book, or turn
on some music. Practice does indeed make perfect. Before
long, the above traits will become automatic. You will look
back and realize how far you have come. You will have
become one of the ones people look to for the "secret" of
happiness.

QUOTE OF THE POST
"Rejoice always"- Bible

NEW YEAR

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I wish you all the best year of your life so far in 2008.

GOD BLESS!

QUOTE OF THE POST
"He crowns the year with goodness"-Psalms